Art of the Break-Up: How did you overcome self-sabotage after a break-up?
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Diatonic12
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Forget the revenge body. They don't care. You can work like a dog for someone else and they simply move on. Bodies don't keep people together. It's only the bait to reel the big marlin in but it doesn't keep one on the hook.
There are many fishes in the sea.
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There are many fishes in the sea.
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I went out with a golf pro for a long time but he was always distracted. He liked to work out every evening until about 10 pm. Then he really worked out running all over town showing off his muscle mass. All he thought about - his muscles and mass and quite frankly, I was bored out of my head. Cute isn't everything.
If we were watching a movie, he would stand in front of the TV and strike a pose. A lorra lorra poses. This way and that. I was supposed to always Ooooo and Ahhhh at the Shock N Awe of his body. Sometimes, he would catch me looking through the muscle mass at the TV. Show over. How could I not appreciate all of that hard work at the gym.
One day, my car broke down on the side of the road. He drove by and left me stranded there. Tee Time!
Gotta run. Tee Time!
I knew right then and there that this was a total flop. He moved on and immediately dated a bunch of women, not fazed one iota. I should've moved on immediately but I did not. Women pine waaaay too long and men don't. They're smart. I recently read that there's really no benefit to pining and wishing and carrying on too long. It really is a waste of time.
Ooo, there were other break-ups in my life. Some that I barely gave a second thought. There's another that really threw me for a loop. In hindsight we always know what we should've done.
Remember when you really fell in love for the very first time. You're in deep, you can't sleep.
Your lights are on, but you're not home
Your mind is not your own
Your heart sweats, your body shakes
Another kiss is what it takes
Your mind is not your own
Your heart sweats, your body shakes
Another kiss is what it takes
You can't sleep, you can't eat
There's no doubt, you're in deep
Your throat is tight, you can't breathe
Another kiss is all you need
Whoa, you like to think that you're immune to the stuff, oh yeah
It's closer to the truth to say you can't get enough
You know you're gonna have to face it, you're addicted to love
You see the signs, but you can't read
You're running at a different speed
Your heart beats in double time
Another kiss and you'll be mine, a one track mind
Remember when you could run forever or do all kinds of activities because you're completely fruitcake nutty for someone. It happens. Then you break-up and you eat your way through all kinds of movies on the TV.
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100_PROOF_ wrote: »I thought we are friends? I asked you about 2 live crew and got no reply
I didn't see that. Yes, I do.
I like all of those posters above there, too.
I just decided to put myself out there today. Humans do a funny thing. We like to connect things that may or may not be related. Sometimes, you can suss it all out if you put yourself on the line. The more experiences we have we can start to see our patterns.
We can choose to stop repeating them. Like dieting and eating all back. We do confuse correlation with causation. Cause and effect vs. relationship. Everyone wants to know how to hack their weight loss. The sky is not the limit for the sellers of false promises.
People will throw their hard earned money down a rat hole on supplements, equipment, plans, dieting gurus and coaches, books, special foods, hoping it will be the answer to all of their problems. Dieting refugees may even start following their guru hoping they can turn into one revved up fat-burning machine.
So much of this stuff is mental and emotional. We all have to make our peace with food. I don't want to use it as a substitute for people.
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100_PROOF_ wrote: »So much of this stuff is mental and emotional. We all have to make our peace with food. I don't want to use it as a substitute for people.
You have to make peace with yourself. I've seen a lot of people who think a perfect mate, more money, a new place to live, a new job, a perfect body, a new car or clothes, etc. etc. will make them happy but in reality if they aren't already content and happy in whatever skin they have those things won't magically make their problems disappear. Part of being human is to have emotions that sway when bad and good things happen and the things I listed (plus many more) will be at best a temporary fix unless a person has dealt with the crux of their issues. I've pined about ex-girlfriends but I stop myself and think it didn't work for a reason, it could be me it could be them but I am here in the present moment and my actions will dictate my future. Anyone can break their cycle, its possible and while many might want that "revenge" body (which is a good "get out of your funk" motivator) eventually its less about the ex as it should be.1 -
Anyone can break their cycle, its possible and while many might want that "revenge" body (which is a good "get out of your funk" motivator) eventually its less about the ex as it should be.
Absolutely. Agreed and appreciated.
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There's a difference between honesty and being hypercritical of others. Honesty is good medicine.
There are people who can spot all of your flaws from across the room. They pounce on you when you enter at the door. To keep expecting their approval or anything out of them but hypercritical opinions is a mistake. They're not going to change.
Not everyone has your best interest at heart. There are people you just have to stay away from if you can. Avoid them. If these people are your coworkers, boss or family members that's going to be tough.
If they're perfect strangers just walk off. Hypercritical people are master controllers. Master controllers usually can't control anything in their own life so they huff and puff trying to blow your house. They're like the needle in a dream factory. They want to burst yours to make themselves feel better and in control. It's their coping mechanism.
Get away from master controllers. They've got nothing for you and they never will.1
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